Here are three steps to move from bystander inaction to a bystander IN ACTION! (1) Notice what street harassment looks like, (2) Notice what keeps you from acting, (3) Pick a Green Dot that works for you!
What you might notice…uh, is that street harassment?
· Comments about someone’s appearance, gender, sexual orientation, etc.
· Vulgar Gestures
· Sexually Explicit Comments (e.g., “Hey baby, I’d like a piece of that”)
· Kissing Noises
· Following someone
· Flashing someone or exposing oneself
· Blocking someone’s path
· Sexual touching or grabbing (e.g., touching someone’s legs, breasts or butt)
· Public masturbation
Holy crap…that’s awful…I’ve got to do something…but….
· I’m shy
· I don’t know what to do
· I don’t want that dude to touch me
· What if no one else has my back?
· What if I’m calling it wrong?
· I don’t want to get my butt kicked
· I’m late
· Maybe I’m the only one who thinks that’s rude, maybe the target is into it
· My friends would think I was a freak for saying anything
· That super cutie sitting across from me definitely won’t ask me out if I make a scene on the subway
· No one else is doing anything
· There are a lot of them and only one of me
· If I tell the cops, they may not help
· I have to walk this way every day – if I call them out I may see them again
· Am I over reacting?
· That’s my friend saying those lewd things…
It can be really hard to have someone’s back, even when we really want to. The good news is, that doesn’t make you a crappy person – it only makes you human! More good news (that’s right, there’s more) – no matter what makes it hard, there is almost always something you can do that will feel manageable to you!
Badass Bystander Moves
In the moment…..
Direct Green Dots
· “Hey knock it off”
· Tell the person you will call the cops if they don’t put that thing away.
· “Are you ok”
· Go stand next to the person being targeted so they know they are not alone.
· Ask the target, “Are they bothering you?”
· Take a picture with your phone
· Look disapprovingly at the person doing the harassing behavior
· Offer to get off at the next stop with the target and catch the next train together.
· “Get away from her/him”
· Don’t join in or laugh.
· Loudly say “ugh, that is so gross”
· Talk to your friend later about why you thought what they did or said was uncool
· Ask the target if there is anything you can do to help
· Tell the harasser you saw some cops on the corner and you are worried they will get in trouble if they don’t stop.
· Tell the target that the harassing behavior wasn’t ok and you are sorry it happened.
Delegate Green Dots
· Find the Foreman on the construction site
· Call the police
· Tell a transit authority worker
· Yell “Somebody do something!!!!!”
· Get a group together to intervene
· Text a friend who is on the subway (dolmuş, metrobüs, etc.) with you and ask them to HELP!
· Make eye contact with some other bystanders and ask, “What should we do to help?”
Distract Green Dots
· Ask for directions
· Offer the target your seat
· Start a flash mob
· Act like you know the target and say “I’ve been looking everywhere for you – we have to hurry to meet our other friends”
· Drop your bags to create a commotion
· “Accidentally” spill your coffee
- A note about safety: We don’t ever want you to get hurt trying to help someone. Always think about safety and consider possibilities that are unlikely to put you in harm’s way (e.g., calling 155 , getting a group together, etc.)